For an ezine, here's the answer I gave about my book When a Man You Love Was Abused: I learned that the only way to overcome the pain of our past is to face it and not to feel shame or embarrassment.
I learned (again) that although it hurts, we need to feel those experiences repeatedly until the past events no longer have the power to hurt us. I was surprised because I assumed I had moved beyond my pain, but some of those unhealed places erupted and I had to face them.
Each time I complete a book, I can say one thing: "I've learned something new about myself." Of course, I also learn about other people, my culture, and about the mysterious workings of God in my life.
When I finish a book and can say,
"I've learned something about myself,"
I know I've done my job.